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Your sleeping position sets the height.
Side sleepers need the most, because your shoulder lifts your head several inches off the mattress and something has to fill that gap. Fill it until your head sits level with your shoulders, and broad shoulders need more height than narrow ones to get there.
Back sleepers need much less. Lying flat, the back of your head is nearly level with the bed, so the pillow's real job is filling the hollow behind your neck. Stomach sleepers need the least of anyone, sometimes almost none, because any height bends the neck backwards on top of the rotation. A 2021 review in the journal Healthcare looked for the one right pillow height. It found none, which is why every pillow here lets you set your own.
Levelyour head with your shoulders
Nonesingle height suits every neck